Bullying is such a strong topic. One could never know enough about it.
There are 4 girls in my school-age program who are don't always get along. Two of them in particular rub shoulders. The one girl who is newest to the group (Casidy) often tried to fit in with them and ended up feeling rejected. I had many chats with her about this. Mostly about who her friends were.
There is another girl in the group, lets call her Sara, who she gets along with and trusts so I would talk about how she would hang out with that girl instead of try to make friends with the others. I needed to give her someone to play with because otherwise she would be on her own all the time, and miss out on friendships and social skills.
Now it is also my job to encourage the children to have prosocial behaviours, so I talked to her about some of the things she does that she could do differently. For example, if she gets mad at someone, she will yell at them and then walk away. So we talked about taking a deep breath, and telling them calmly what it is they are doing that is hurtful. This is harder than it sounds, of course, but it is an important skill to learn. Another thing she could do is listen to the other side. Walking away, she doesn't hear that.
Cassidy is doing a lot better with the group. She plays with Sara a lot and is playing with the other girls sometimes as well. They still have arguments and difficulties, but that is normal for their age. Whenever possible, my coworker and I step in to monitor their behaviour and make sure no bullying goes on, such as name calling and pushing or any other unwanted physical contact. We are not afraid to write-up a Notice of Inappropriate Behaviour form to their parents when necessary.
Some prosocial behaviours to encourage your children to have are:
Helping
Sharing
Donating
Cooperating
Forgiving
Obeying rules
Prosocial behaviours are actions meant to help or benefit another individual or group.
One way to teach this is from examples in the animal kingdom. When animals and plants benefit each other it is called a Mutualistic relationship.
The Clown fish and the sea anenome is the most popular example. The clown fish is given protection by the sea anenome's stinging tenticles, while the sea anenome benefits from the fertilizer the fish gives.
Other examples of Mutualistic relationships include:
Butterflies/Bees and flowers
Cecropia trees and Azteca ants
Oxpecker and Rhinocerous
Crocodiles and Plover birds
Even animals can be friends :)
*All names are pseudonyms
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There are 4 girls in my school-age program who are don't always get along. Two of them in particular rub shoulders. The one girl who is newest to the group (Casidy) often tried to fit in with them and ended up feeling rejected. I had many chats with her about this. Mostly about who her friends were.
There is another girl in the group, lets call her Sara, who she gets along with and trusts so I would talk about how she would hang out with that girl instead of try to make friends with the others. I needed to give her someone to play with because otherwise she would be on her own all the time, and miss out on friendships and social skills.
Now it is also my job to encourage the children to have prosocial behaviours, so I talked to her about some of the things she does that she could do differently. For example, if she gets mad at someone, she will yell at them and then walk away. So we talked about taking a deep breath, and telling them calmly what it is they are doing that is hurtful. This is harder than it sounds, of course, but it is an important skill to learn. Another thing she could do is listen to the other side. Walking away, she doesn't hear that.
Cassidy is doing a lot better with the group. She plays with Sara a lot and is playing with the other girls sometimes as well. They still have arguments and difficulties, but that is normal for their age. Whenever possible, my coworker and I step in to monitor their behaviour and make sure no bullying goes on, such as name calling and pushing or any other unwanted physical contact. We are not afraid to write-up a Notice of Inappropriate Behaviour form to their parents when necessary.
Some prosocial behaviours to encourage your children to have are:
Helping
Sharing
Donating
Cooperating
Forgiving
Obeying rules
Prosocial behaviours are actions meant to help or benefit another individual or group.
One way to teach this is from examples in the animal kingdom. When animals and plants benefit each other it is called a Mutualistic relationship.
The Clown fish and the sea anenome is the most popular example. The clown fish is given protection by the sea anenome's stinging tenticles, while the sea anenome benefits from the fertilizer the fish gives.
Other examples of Mutualistic relationships include:
Butterflies/Bees and flowers
Cecropia trees and Azteca ants
Oxpecker and Rhinocerous
Crocodiles and Plover birds
Even animals can be friends :)
*All names are pseudonyms
.
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