Parents have such a big influence on their children.
Recently I had a parent in my program concerned about her son's behaviour at school and childcare. He had been disrespecting authority figures (ie. not listening to his teachers) and she wanted him to be more accountable for his actions.
In order to see this improve, everyday at pick-up time, she brought him over to me and we talked about his listening for the day. I gave specific examples. Things I was happy to see and things where he needed to make better choices.
His mom would give feedback about what she was hearing and would talk about her feelings and expectations to her son and I. It was evident from his face that he really cared about what she said.
During program, I would give direction, for example, it is time to go inside. If he did not start moving, I would say "you are not listening to me. This is not okay." If he started moving then, I would say "good listening." If he did not listen I would say "I am going to need to talk to your mom about this." Of course, I would tell her either way if he listened or not, but I was reminding him what would happen at the end of the day when she came to pick him up.
After about 3 or 4 weeks, he consistently had 'good listening days' and his mom was pleased. She said to me after about a week of these good days, that she felt something had been accomplished. That her son was being more accountable for his actions and showing more respect. I was pleased with his improvements as well. Now we communicate every few days about his behaviours or things that happen in the classroom, rather than everyday.
I think this was a great collaboration with a parent in the program. The child was able to get feedback from both of us on a daily basis and his mom's feelings of pride or disappointment greatly affected him .
The more communication between parents and caregivers that happens, the better, as it can have great benefit on the child and gives more for the family to talk about at home. It is great that this can happen in an after-school program or childcare. Teachers and parents may not have as much time to talk.
At our childcare, we are encouraged to talk to the parents daily. At least to say hello, sometimes to say what a child enjoyed doing that day, always any First aid or Notice of Inappropriate Behaviour forms, and on occasion depending whether the child needs extra support in the program, socially or otherwise.We are encouraged to ask if the behaviours continue at home, and what the parents do about it. As well as if they have any concerns about how their children are getting along with others. We form a collaboration and direct parents to resources in the community whenever possible.
Recently I had a parent in my program concerned about her son's behaviour at school and childcare. He had been disrespecting authority figures (ie. not listening to his teachers) and she wanted him to be more accountable for his actions.
In order to see this improve, everyday at pick-up time, she brought him over to me and we talked about his listening for the day. I gave specific examples. Things I was happy to see and things where he needed to make better choices.
His mom would give feedback about what she was hearing and would talk about her feelings and expectations to her son and I. It was evident from his face that he really cared about what she said.
During program, I would give direction, for example, it is time to go inside. If he did not start moving, I would say "you are not listening to me. This is not okay." If he started moving then, I would say "good listening." If he did not listen I would say "I am going to need to talk to your mom about this." Of course, I would tell her either way if he listened or not, but I was reminding him what would happen at the end of the day when she came to pick him up.
After about 3 or 4 weeks, he consistently had 'good listening days' and his mom was pleased. She said to me after about a week of these good days, that she felt something had been accomplished. That her son was being more accountable for his actions and showing more respect. I was pleased with his improvements as well. Now we communicate every few days about his behaviours or things that happen in the classroom, rather than everyday.
I think this was a great collaboration with a parent in the program. The child was able to get feedback from both of us on a daily basis and his mom's feelings of pride or disappointment greatly affected him .
The more communication between parents and caregivers that happens, the better, as it can have great benefit on the child and gives more for the family to talk about at home. It is great that this can happen in an after-school program or childcare. Teachers and parents may not have as much time to talk.
At our childcare, we are encouraged to talk to the parents daily. At least to say hello, sometimes to say what a child enjoyed doing that day, always any First aid or Notice of Inappropriate Behaviour forms, and on occasion depending whether the child needs extra support in the program, socially or otherwise.We are encouraged to ask if the behaviours continue at home, and what the parents do about it. As well as if they have any concerns about how their children are getting along with others. We form a collaboration and direct parents to resources in the community whenever possible.
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